Partner and I dont have spark.. any advice?

I'm feeling really lost and confused about my relationship, and I could really use some advice from you all. Here's the situation:

My partner and I have been together for almost five years now. We used to be crazy about each other, always laughing, going on adventures, and supporting each other through thick and thin. But lately, things have taken a turn for the worse.

We seem to be stuck in a rut – routine has become the norm and spontaneity is non-existent. We barely go out on dates or do anything exciting anymore. It feels like we're just going through the motions – working, eating dinner together, watching TV shows, sleeping... rinse and repeat.

We've both become so comfortable that it's almost suffocating. I miss those passionate moments we used to share – the long conversations into the night, surprising each other with little gestures of love, trying new experiences together.

I've tried talking to my partner about this multiple times but it always ends up in an argument or with them getting defensive. They say they're content with how things are – that our relationship has evolved into something more stable and comfortable.

But deep down, I can't shake this feeling of discontentment. I want more than just comfort; I want excitement and passion back in our lives. However, I don't want to risk losing someone who means so much to me by pushing too hard or making them feel attacked.

Has anyone here experienced something similar? How did you break free from this rut without causing conflict? Is there hope for reigniting that spark or am I asking for too much?

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