how i got over my fear of failure 😇

it’s the end of a very tough work season for me, and throughout this episode, i’ve had countless moments where i saw myself as a failure; however i knew that wasn’t true, and had to somehow reframe my mind to realise that i’m still growing and learning, so i can be better at the things i do ✨

1. seek guidance from experts

one of the most important lessons i've learned is that whatever you're trying to achieve, someone has probably done it before. this realisation was a game-changer for me. it opened my eyes to the vast wealth of knowledge and experience available just by asking. more often than not, people are willing to share their insights and experiences more than you might expect. don't be afraid to reach out to mentors, colleagues, or even strangers who have walked the path you aspire to take. their guidance can provide valuable shortcuts and prevent you from making the same mistakes they did.

2. embrace your unique journey

in singapore (or for me at least), we are often conditioned to follow a specific template to reach our goals. this cookie-cutter approach, however, can stifle one’s creativity and personal growth. it's crucial to understand that everyone's journey is different. instead of focusing solely on the end goal, shift your attention to the process. celebrate small victories along the way and learn from each step, whether it leads to success or a lesson in disguise. by valuing the journey, you can reduce the fear of failure and appreciate the growth that comes with every experience 🥲

3. reframe failure as a learning opportunity

failure is not the opposite of success; it's a part of it. this mindset shift was pivotal in my journey. when you view failure as a stepping stone rather than a stumbling block, it becomes less daunting. each setback is an opportunity to learn, grow, and improve. embrace failures as essential components of your success story, and reflect on what went wrong, identify areas for improvement, and apply these lessons moving forward. remember, every successful person has a trail of failures behind them.

4. cultivate resilience

as we all know, resilience is the ability to bounce back from setbacks and to keep moving forward. developing resilience involves having a positive mindset, staying adaptable, and essentially, not taking life too seriously. we need to practice self-compassion, and to start being kinder to ourselves during tough times. resilience doesn't mean you won't feel the sting of failure; it means you won't let it stop you from trying again.

the fear of failure is a natural part of any journey towards success. by seeking guidance, embracing your unique path, reframing failure, building a support system, cultivating resilience, and setting realistic goals, you can manage and overcome this fear. failure is not the end; it's a valuable part of the process. keep pushing forward, and you'll find that every failure brings you one step closer to success ❤️

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