the impacts of checking your ex’s socials 📲

when we spend enough time with someone we love, thanks to neuroplasticity, our brain associates them with all the good feelings we get from relationships.

so when relationships end, and when we can't see or touch the person we associated with these feelings, it can be distressing while your brain rewires itself. to relieve the distress, you will want to get any "fix" of your ex that you can, like checking their socials.

but this only reinforces the very neural pathways your brain is trying to rewire.

to break this cycle, you will have to emotionally regulate and push through the discomfort. i know, easier said than done right? but try to think of it like quitting anything. caffeine, nicotine, any addictive substance, causes withdrawal symptoms, and the end of a relationship causes similar activity in the brain.

so if you quit smoking, you can have a cigarette now and then to ease the withdrawal, but it will only go on for longer. eventually, you need to stop altogether.

stay safe out there <3

evelyn xoxo

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