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Hello Zesties,
Today's content is a little sensitive, but I believe it's important. It's also something that's often not talked about, at least in my family.
Losing both my grandparents in less than a year wasn't easy for me. My grandma passed last year in August, and when I received the call about my grandfather, tears immediately fell.
It was 1st April, and for a moment, I questioned if it was some kind of joke. It wasnāt and it was real, I couldn't speak properly when my partner asked what happened; I was just crying and trying to process the news.
Honestly, I don't think I've fully processed it even now.
Just recently, I was having lunch and sharing with my grandpa about my trip to Taiwan and our PWS photos. Even chatting happily about my wedding, that he said heāll attend. š„¹
After the news, everyone gathered at my grandparentās place. I was trying my best to put on a brave front, avoiding tears, but memories of them flooded my mind and I ended up crying again.
My grandparents were like parents to me. They cared for me since I was young, gave me countless wise advices, and supported me in every way imaginable. They were the hardest working and giving people I've ever known.
In those moments, memories of them came rushing back, with abit of regret. Wishing that I had done or achieved certain things while they were still with me. I miss them a lot..
I simply canāt imagine life without them.
In the midst of his passing, everyone seemed to be putting on a brave front, trying to navigate through the rollercoaster of emotions and decisions that followed. The whole process unfolded rapidly, leaving little time to process or grief.
I just kept telling myself āThis is life, death is inevitable and bound to happen one day.ā
The world doesnāt stop moving, I had to understand that.
During this few days, hereās how I dealt with grief.
ā¤ļøāš©¹Allowing myself to Feel
It's okay to cry, to feel lost, and to grieve.
Emotions are a natural response to loss, and suppressing them can prolong the healing process.
Just let it all out. Allowing myself to feel and heal.
ā¤ļøāš©¹ Seeking Support
With my partnerās support throughout this, it definitely felt a lot easier. Itās better to have someone you can lean on during this difficult time.
ā¤ļøāš©¹ Good Memories
Instead of solely focusing on the loss, we cherish the memories and moments shared with loved ones.
My partner shared with me his memories with my grandparents as I did mine. Some we laughed, some we were grateful for - especially those advices my grandparents gave us.
Even my aunts would share memories about my grandpa back when they were younger & I truly loved listening to them!
ā¤ļøāš©¹Donāt forget to take care of yourself.
Grief can take a toll on physical and mental health. Make self-care a priority!
Eat well, exercising, and do something that brings you joy.
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Although Iām grieving, my work doesnāt stop & I still have to settle work related stuff. I canāt isolate myself and just shut down - I believe doing this is unhealthy too.
Grief is a deeply personal journey, and there's no right or wrong way to navigate it. Everyone has different ways to cope with grief ā¤ļøāš©¹
What's important is finding healthy ways to cope and honoring the memory of those we've lost. š¤
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