How to detach and love your own company

To be honest, i used to love alone time and crave it so much that I would rather much prefer alone time than to meet my SO or sometimes my friends. But now i find myself sometimes feeling lonely when i’m not companied and when i don’t get texts. I totally understand that this is normal because my friends and SO are not always free and I really still do have them whenever i need them it isn’t that i lost them, but I just felt lonely. After watching therapeutic youtube videos such as Awwlexis and Thewizardliz, i came to realise that feeling lonely is not the lack of company. It’s the lack of connection either to oneself or the person you’re with- just like how sometimes you may be accompanied but still feel lonely.

In this video, Liz talked about how to detach from people and situations. She highlighted about the value of oneself and how other people in our lives are just there to add value into our lives - particularly, in relationship contexts.

1. Detachment is your ego operating. Your ego makes you feel like you are not good enough, and make you idolise people and situations making you depressed when these turn out not to be true.

2. Everyone / situation which comes into your life serves a purpose in your life. If they leave, it is meant to be and it’s meant to teach you something. So don’t get so attached onto something.

3. Get a life. This was my favourite advice. She went on to highlight her thoughts on how people who are so attached and constantly waiting on their phone for texts have no life. Get a life. Get a hobby, get passionate, learn a new skill, go outside. Invest in yourself. Because you will always have you (even in the darkest times) and the person you should invest in is yourself.

4. Lastly, happiness won’t come “when you have what you want”. In fact, you might even get more depressed if you don’t end up getting it. I believe happiness is a choice you choose to take on everyday.