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For my Single Ladies who are between the ages of 33-38, gather-round! Letās chat!
Idk what the hell is going on but for the first time in my life, I feel like these mid-30 years are hitting a bit different! Some of it good and some of it bad, but weāll get into that.
First, let me level set and give you some āabout meā info. Iām a single, Black-female living in the city but with all the country roots. I recently turned 35 years old, no kids, no pets - I like to get up and go when I want to. I have a decent career that Iām way too overqualified and underutilized for (working on correcting that āš½) and I recently started my own business as a Makeup Artist & Beauty Consultant! Iām obsessed with makeup and creating feel-good moments for people so I slapped those together and fell in love!
Now thatās out the wayā¦ let me tell you how Iāve been feeling lately and yāall let me know if Iām alone in this or if this is normal at this age.
āŖļøFor the first time, I feel like my clock is ticking. Which clock? Fucking all of them. Marriage. Kids. Career. The whole damn package. I want babies and a family and that whole dynamic. I want my career to advance and be fruitful in all the ways. I want my business to skyrocket! And I feel like Iām racing myself to get this shit done.
Now as a faithful person, I know that timing is not oursā¦ but this whole in-between waiting period really sucks the shit out of my soul at times! I often feel like Iām behind schedule when Iām not even sure what the schedule even is. I just know that the day-to-day space Iām in right nowā¦ aināt it.
āŖļøSpeaking of shit that āaināt it,ā spinning wheels trying to figure out what isā¦ also aināt it. Iāve burned myself completely out doing all this self-help work, planning, writing lists and just AHH! Itās so much - Iāve had to learn to be okay with just chilling tf out. It means I need a reset - not that Iām not working hard enoughā¦
āŖļøWith that said, I noticed that I donāt practice gratitude enough ā¦ I do all that shit above because I donāt realize my small wins all the time so therefore I feel like itās never enough. In order to grow, you have to appreciate where you areā¦ not like it, but appreciate it. So instead of writing all these things to doā¦ I need to start writing what I have done. š” Lightbulb momentā¦ starting that TODAY!
āŖļøAside from all of that, I often feel like I am the anomaly. I donāt have kids or a husband or even a dog to walk so my responsibilities are completely different than those closest to me. I canāt lieā¦ it makes it hard to relate. Even when it comes to meeting new people, unless thereās a devoted āSingle, Black Femaleā Club, most folks are married or have babies or serious companions so their time is somewhat limited. Sometimes I want to do āoutsideā shit but my circle to do that with gets cut each year I swearā¦
āŖļøAs for outside shit, Iām kind of over it even without all the extra shit. Or let me say my definition of it has changed drastically. Iām so not interested in the whole club scene and all the shenanigans that comes with it. However I do thoroughly enjoy a night out. Thereās a difference. But with that I find it harder to meet people because Iām into different shit. Letās go to brunch instead of the club. Letās do a working lunch date and discuss our businesses with one another. This applies to friends and relationships for real. My interests are so different now so the folks who see eye-to-eye with me feels slim.
āŖļøDating is ass. I donāt even know what else to say about that. Then if you donāt settle for this subpar mediocrity at best thatās out here, you spend 98% of your time alone, which is also ass. I get dating yourself and all that - but thereās only so much of that I feel like doing after a while.
āŖļøNow I canāt lie and say I donāt enjoy being alone sometimes. I actually love it 65% of the time. Iāve learned a lot about myself and how to pour into me. Iāve learned the definition of self-love and dating yourself. I also learned how to enjoy life without depending on other people to contribute to that.
However Iām not sure if thatās a protection response bc thatās just always the case? I say that bc I find myself wanting physical company but not just anyone dropping by. Someone I actually enjoy spending time with whether weāre doing nothing, thinking of a master plan or 2, or traveling the globe.
āŖļøIāve also become very big on protecting my peace. My life was a fucking circus for quite a few years all due to others and myself disturbing tf out of peace - so I vow to never let that happen again. On the flip side, eliminating those stressors can also cause a form of isolation - and trust issues. So Iām always in this tug-of-war battle with loneliness and peacefulness and itās tiresome. While sacrificing that peace for someone elseās chaos isnāt an option no matter who the person is, itās still a hard balance sometimes to not feel alone in that process.
āŖļøLastly, therapy and life coaching is KEY! I just rattled off a whole 4858395 words that shows just how important those things are in my life. I stopped a while back because my therapist moved to a different state but what better time than now to restart. Having support in navigating all the things that come along with your mid-30s is absolutely OKAY no matter who you are!
I know I rambled a lot but this is my digital diary and these are the things that were on my heart. ā„ļø Are any of you feeling ANY of this? Am I crazy? Letās discuss!
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