#advice | why I stopped telling myself this.

After taking many personality tests and being categorised as an introvert. I found myself using that as an excuse when I am uncomfortable in social situations. This is why I stopped calling myself an 'introvert' and how that has impacted my life.

I acknowledge that I relate to the traits of being an introvert more as compared to those of an extrovert but this does not mean that once we are diagnosed as being 'introverts' we no longer are able to engage in as much activity as those who are extroverted and our personalities are set in stone and that's the end of the story.

How I realised that branding myself as an 'introvert' became toxic for me.

Usually when I meet new friends, the topic of personality tests/MBTI would come up. I would ask them whether they thought I was an introvert or extrovert and more often than not, they answered extrovert. This made me think that the way I was projecting myself to others was not accurate of what other people thought introverts were like so does that make me a 'true introvert' if this term even makes sense. Through this I realised that it was just best to be myself regardless of what MBTI told me.

It also made me think that I would not enjoy trying new things and places simply because I was ok with being alone and I didn't need that external stimuli from being in new environments. I was just comfortable being where I was and the thought of going out to socialise was not my idea of a fun night out.

However, changing that habit of assuming how things would go before they even happen; made me have the courage to go out of what was routine to me and it made me realise how much I was holding back before because it was easy to tell people that I didn't want to go out because 'I am introverted'. Eventually they just stopped asking.

I'm sure everyone is different but regardless of whether you are an introvert or extrovert or ambivert or just a vert ahahaha, what's most important is just being true to yourself and living your best life without restricting yourself to labels!

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