Long Distance Relationship with ZERO contact? 🥹💔

Being in a long term relationship has its challenges. It's not always sunshine and rainbows and that's completely okay. But going through long distance without having any contact was one of the most difficult things my partner and I went through.

So back story - the reason why we had to go through long distance (for about 10 months) was because my partner made the bold decision to enlist in the air force. After long consideration, he decided that that was the career path that he wanted to take. Although it was really hard, I supported his dreams and goals. One of the requirements for military training is that they need to surrender their phones - which meant zero contact. We both knew this going into this decision. So we had time to mentally prepare ourselves for what was going to happen.

We talked for hours and days on how we were both personally gonna get through it and I’ll share with you some of the things we did. Firstly, we decided that we were gonna write letters to each other for any milestones and big things that we might face during those 10 months of no contact. It included things like, “open this on your birthday” and “open this when you are missing me”. Not talking to your partner for 10 months is really really tough and not having them on good and bad days is even harder. Having these letters can feel like a warm hug on those days when you’re missing them a little extra. Another thing we decided to do was keep a journal. We would write about our day, everyday for 10 months. It's hard when you used to talk to each other every single day for years and suddenly its radio is silent. So having a journal to talk about your day is pretty comforting. When he came back, we just sat down and catched up on the things we missed and talked about what happened when we were not together.

Another thing we did, right before he left was we went on sooo many dates. Going on dates doesn't have to always mean going on fancy dinners and doing expensive things. It could just be a roadtrip to the beach or have a picnic with your partner. We also used this time to go on all the dates we have wanted to before but didn't have the time. We visited museums and went to aquariums. We even just sat in the car and talked about our future plans together. Take as many pictures as you can, take videos and you can always have something to look back to.

One of the most important things is to always make time for each other and have trust for one other. If you have the privilege to meet them, then make time for them. There was one time where my partner and I had the privilege to meet each other and I flew all the way to Alor Setar just to meet him for three hours. I took every chance I got to meet him when I could. It was also another way of showing him that I support his goals and dreams and that I am thankful for all the sacrifices that he has done for me, his family and the country. Finally, trust. The only thing you can hold onto when you can’t talk to each other is trust. Trust that everything will be okay and trust that this hardship will pass - because it will. There is a light at the end of the tunnel and you will be rewarded.

I feel like with this hardship and challenge that we went through, it only made us stronger - individually and as a couple. We learnt and unlearnt a lot of things about each other and personally along the way. We communicate better and most importantly we appreciate each other even more than ever.

Signing off, Aisya <3

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