How to Deal with Bullying? (Experience speaking)

Hello, loves! Harini, Ain nak berkongsi tentang salah satu moment yang terjadi waktu zaman sekolah dahulu. Sekali waktu sekolah rendah and another one waktu sekolah menengah

To begin with, ofcourse it was not something nice to experience, the experiences dah tak buatkan Ain rasa bitter to anyone dah tapi ceritanya akan Ain ingat sampai bila-bila. Perkaranya berlaku lama dah waktu masa zaman sekolah, I still remembered siapa and what were their names.

Ain tak ingat how frequent or berapa lama or how it started, but ada satu scene yang memang sentiasa Ain ingat. Masa tu Ain darjah satu and the three of us satu kelas, both of them were closed friends, and masa tu we were at the back of the class, the other kids pun were in the same room, and these two girls specifically targeted me for my appearance waktu zaman sekolah dahulu. Ain serious tak ingat sama ada kitaorang rapat or not, tapi that incident happened. I could not mention specifically on what it was, but it was on physical topic. Why do I considered it as bully and not as a joke? Sebab masa kejadian, they were laughing at me while I felt ashamed. Plus, there were no one yang helped me at that time, if i was not mistaken. Nothing much that I could do as a kid so the only thing I buat adalah, I did tell my parents about it, and I guess after that my dad tried to talk to them masa he sent me to the school that it was not nice to do and whatnot. And then, I think it resolved macam tu je lepastu sebab Ain dah tak ingat apa-apa kejadian buli masa sekolah dah

Waktu sekolah menengah, happened waktu form 2, it was due to my break up with someone (from what I heard, Ain tak pasti kesahihan berkenaan the purpose of that incident) tapi the timeline happened after Ain broke up with someone masa tu, and I was the one who ended things, and what I heard, somehow his gang thought it was me trying to toy the guy’s feelings around. (If I am not mistaken la, sebab cerita dah lama, jadi Ain risau andai ada cerita yang Ain terlepas pandang detailsnya yang eventually boleh mengubah cerita kejadian tu)

I still remember how scared and anxious I was every morning nak ke kelas tingkat atas sekali masa tu as the effect of the incident. Setiap kali nak pergi kelas pgi tu, mesti berdebar, sebab kejadian tu ongoing for few days (yang pasti bukan sekali). Yang Ain ingat hanyalah kejadian yang mana there was someone/guys (I tak nampak sendiri on who were involved specifically, tapi some of my classmates yang nampak masa meja dialihkan, they told me about it, ada yang nampak tapi tak buat apa-apa, ada yang ketuanya) tapi sampai-sampai je kelas, meja I yang sepatutnya ada dalam kelas macam students lain, tiba-tiba dah ada dekat luar kelas. Other than that incident, the rest of the memories about that incident were blurry, but I ended up bagitau my closed friends and one of them teman I jumpa counsellor. Was it the best decision? Maybe? Sebab eventually it kind of resolved? But then masa cikgu kaunselor panggil the person yang buat tu ke dalam bilik, cuak jugalah kita sebab for sure he knows sape yang report on him. Tapi, as a result, I dapat rasa tenang balik, seronok pergi kelas tanpa rasa takut-takut. It might not be the best decision but better than not doing anything.

But luckily, ada some of my classmates dalam form 2 yang eventually made the rest of form 2 I rasa fun balik afterward, and year 4 and 5 eventually were my favourite moments sebab masa tu I felt so closed with my classmates and masa tulah I start rasa sangat seronok untuk belajar, hari-hari excited datang sekolah tak macam dulu

I think this is one of many reasons kenapa kalau orang tanya I, ada tak childhood moments yang u rindukan? I would say no sebab first I tak ada kawan rapat masa sekolah rendah, I also did not know how did I survive, I think eventually I ada lah kawan-kawan untuk I survive for all 5 years masa sekolah rendah, tapi not to the point yang I rapat sangat-sangat yang I still keep in contact sampai sekarang.

Take home message: bullying can be in any form, be it actions or words. Sometimes bagi kita ia satu jenaka sebab perkara tu buat kita tertawa and have fun, tapi andai kata daripada akibat tindakan kita itu membuatkan org yang kita “target” tu sampai tak selesa, ketakutan, anxious, we should know the limit. That is the thin line yang membezakan antara jenaka dan sebaliknya. Both moments yang I dibuli, I had different methods untuk resolve the matter, satu bagitau parents, satu lagi bagitau cikgu, which one do I prefer? None, sebab in the overall process, yang buatkan I teringat hanyalah perasaan tidak selesa masa kejadian dan bukan apabila saat it resolved. The memories might not be intact and as fresh macam waktu zaman sekolah, tapi apa yang I rasa waktu tu, I could clearly remember. But now, I do not have hard feelings on those people, cuma if we ever meet again (which I tak pernah jumpa langsung any of them semenjak waktu sekolah), then I guess setakat say hi bye tanya khabar maybe can. Anyway, the purpose of this post only for sharing purpose for those yang sedang alami situasi ni, and I wish nobody faced this❤️

Does any of u yang pernah experience hal yang sama? If ada, how do u guys overcome it?

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