we don’t fight at all!? 6 dating tips 💘

“wait, so you guys never fight?” 😳 in our 4 years together, i can literally count on one hand the number of times we’ve really “fought” or argued. arguments are obviously inevitable in every relationship, but that doesn’t mean you can’t work through your disagreements in a way that doesn’t end up in hurt feelings all around 🤍 it’s also a great way for the two of you to learn more about each other and help you grow in the relationship. here are some of my tips that can help keep your relationship going strong ❤️‍🔥

❣️ be open with each other

the biggest lesson i took away from my previous relationship was to be more open—which i’m still trying my best at, even now. you know how in dramas or even books, it seems like the guy knows exactly why and how the girl is upset? yea that doesn’t happen irl 🙂 a lot of times, i shut him out because i expect him to magically know what i’m thinking or feeling. but this doesn’t help anyone—you’ll stay upset and he’ll be upset wondering why you’re upset 🥲 once i got over this way of thinking (because yes, guys can be obtuse about these kinda things), things get resolved so much quicker and it’s really much easier to work things out once things are out in the open 🤍 

❣️ schedule check-ins and talks

sometimes things get really hectic and it’s a constant “go, go, go” - especially since i’m working and he’s still in uni, which is why it’s important for us to schedule in check-ins with each other. it helps to discuss things that happened so that you guys are in tune with each other 💓 

❣️ share your daily highs and lows

not sure about you but i’m the type where i run and tell my bf at first chance when something happens to me 😳 it’s just a great way to maintain healthy communication between you and your partner—plus it really shows them that you care about their day.

❣️ plan dates and surprises with each other!

it can be tough to find common ground for dates after dating for so long (wine and dine can only get you so far…), especially if your interests are quite different! my bf is def a very outdoorsy, sporty person who practically lives in the gym, and i’m someone who enjoys artsy fartsy movies/books that nobody likes…or staying in with said movies and books 🤡 how we usually compromise is each of us will come up with an idea for a date - e.g. if i suggest a place to eat, he’ll be the one to come up with an activity! it’s worked out well for us so far, but honestly we’re quite easygoing with each other. i once woke up at 8am to go to sungei buloh with him on a weekend… so really it’s all about making an effort for each other! 🫡

❣️ give each other space when you need

being in a relationship doesn’t mean you have to be together 24/7. it’s *just* as important to have some space for yourself. this way you can put in more effort into the other person too, which you can’t if you’re emotionally burnt out 😓 everyone needs time on their own—for personal growth and to maintain your independence within a relationship. this applies to if you’re in the middle of a fight—taking a break helps you cool down and re-think things, so that you don’t accidentally say things that hurt each other 😳

relationships (of any kind!) take a lot of time and effort to maintain, especially long-term ones since we tend to get too comfy with the same person and start to take things for granted. at the end of the day, it’s not personality or compatibility that keeps couples together, but how you interact with each other and how you focus on building your relationship together that makes relationships last! happy v-day everyone❣️

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