Being a military wife (tips/tricks) 👩🏻‍❤️‍👨🏻🫡

Annyeong everyone!

I thought to share some useful tips/tricks to those who are becoming military wife in future or are currently a military girlfriend as the hubs is sound asleep beside me after coming back from a deployment 🫡

1. Ask in advance (if possible) and arrange it smart & wisely

It’s true that it’s tough for us (wife/girlfriend) when our partner is away for deployment or unable to return home. But, truly it goes both ways. It’s tough for them too as well not being able to be there to spend time with the ones they love.

What I usually do, would be to ask the hubs on his schedule in advance. Of course things might change with time, having a rough outline of the days/dates he will be away,gives me some time to be prepared. Also, I would tend to arrange for meet ups and dinners with my friends on days/nights when he’s away so that when he’s back I get to spend all the time I have with him.

2. Date nights are very important. Dress up!

Whether or not dating or married. It’s so important to have date nights where both of you get to share the milestones you have hit both in your relationship. These nights are so important because it helps to rekindle that fire in both your hearts and serve as a reflection and reminder of how far you both have come.

Once in awhile, the hubs and I would have our date nights where we dine out. We would dress our Sunday best and have a chat/reflection on our marriage.

3. Be there to listen and hear for each other👂

As much as a military job in Singapore is what people often call “metal rice bowl” it comes with its pros and cons like every other job out there.

I know that it’s common for some couples to not talk about work outside of work but in my opinion it’s a huge part of our life since it’s like 5 days a week and something that listening ear given to both parties help really to relieve the stress on both end. Also, sometimes as you share with your partners you find solutions and ideas that would help work out in their work troubles and all.

4. Making friends (work/play) and hanging out together

Every couple might have their own group of friends that they are close to and might not enjoy hanging out with each others. But, it really helps trying to make work/play friends on both side. You get to know your partner better from his friends the people whom he are next closer to other than you and his family. Also, occasionally when you know their fellow workmate girlfriends, you guys can hang around together or even share tips on surviving and being independent when the partners are out for deployment.

Personally, I’m a very awkward person. But, I constantly remind myself to make friends and try to hang out with the hubs friends. It first of course allow me to know his job better, however it also broaden my perspective on things in life from what they share and all. Also, I know by having them as my friends as well they help me keep a look out on the hubs 🤪

It’s never easy being in a relationship whether if it’s as a military wife or girlfriend. But, find that community where support you require is given and use that as a stepping stone to uphold your own relationship with your partner.

Any military wives/girlfriends, I’m here if you need a listening ear 😊