Is it okay to be DINK? 👫

DINK means Dual Income, No Kids

Nowadays since the DINK lifestyle blew up online, it has become more common to hear about couples who choose not to have kids. Many of my friends have also decided not to have kids.

Some reasons are how expensive it is, how competitive the world is, and how they just don't want to bring new life into a world of hardship. Or simply just bc they don't want kids.

My ex-bf and I broke up bc he wants to have kids and I don't. Everyone was shocked bc there was inherently nothing wrong with the relationship. But having different goals for the future is a pretty common deal breaker I think.

With my current bf, we both agreed that have then have, don't have also okay. For us, it's very important to be financially stable first before bringing new life to the world. We both grew up in low-income households. It was a tough time for me bc I started working part-time once I hit the minimum age and I paid for poly and uni all by myself.

Although I feel that it was a good learning experience being thrusted into the adult world at a young age, I wouldn't want my kids to have to go through that. Having anxiety over money as a kid is not something I want my child to ever have to experience.

Another reason I'm hesitant about having kids is how competitive school is. I hear a lot about parents having to volunteer for this and that just to secure a spot in PRIMARY school. Like,,,, if that's the situation now, what will the world be like for my children? And nowadays a bachelor's degree basically holds no value already. Everyone has a degree. Soon, a Masters is gonna be the minimum. My colleagues told me it's already like this in China which is so scary. Imagine the stress and the cost 🥲

Life is gonna be so tough for them when they grow up. But selfishly, I also want to experience being a parent. I wonder what it'll be like to be pregnant and to give birth and to care for a human being that's half me and half my bf/future-husband. But that's not a good enough reason to have a child. Selfishly, I also worry about growing old and having nobody there for me. Which is another horrible reason to have a child and it's a huge burden. It's also something that has been ingrained in us by the older generation which I'm trying to break free from.

When I tell people we might not want kids, the first thing they always ask is "your parents are okay with that?" 🤨🤨🤨 I think this is tremendous pressure and I really want to break free from it.

Is it really so wrong to not have kids? Why should our parents even have a say in this? But what is a good reason to have kids? Am I selfish for wanting kids? Do I even want kids? 🤡

Thanks for reading my mess of a post. Hope that if you're going through the same dilemma, this post gives you comfort that you're not alone. Also do feel free to share with me what are some reasons you want/don't want/have children. I'm curious to know 🥹

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