Early signs that your friendship is drifting away

So let’s talk about adult friendships, recently i have been feeling a little more down and reminiscing a lot on the days where i spent good times with my friends. I have always thought that the friends that i had at that time was a solid one as they were always there with me whenever i gone through heartbreaks with guys. Because it was always a same cycle and i really appreciated whoever at that point of time was there to listen to my rants / cries and crazy thoughts. 🥺 I had never once thought that we would kind of drift apart / away which maybe i might be the only one feeling it and the others might not feel the same.

So what are the early signs that you might be feeling already or can take note of is that

1. Communication lessens

This is when there’s a decline of exchange with each other on updates or having a meaningful conversation. When the vibrant communication or connection starts to feel more distant in your heart and you know it that there is something different also with both parties that becomes less engaged in each other live’s.

2. Lack of shared interest

Perhaps before meeting your new partner or your friends having new partner previously you guys are all single, you shared common topics about BOYS about where / how / when you met them and c’mon a topic about a BOY would take 2-3 hours of storytelling hahaha pretty funny thinking about how when girls are being infatuated/ head over heels with a BOY they can talk a ton lot but yeah or you used to have ladies night / making any outing a girls night etc and always knew to invite one another to go out and have FUN which leads to if in your friend group all of yall are attached , you would see seldom invites of having ladies night or etc

3. Not maintaining intentional effort ( both parties )

This is when regular meetings become infrequent and the connection fades due to both individuals failed to prioritise spending time with each other which is connected / related to point 4

4. Different priorities

Maybe your friends or you are at different stages of life. Perhaps some wants to spend more time with family as they have outgrew the party / having fun phase, or some are more clingy and prioritised their partner more than friendships , being a workaholic and don’t see the need of bonding time with others, honestly there are so many different priorities we can have it’s countless which is definitely not WRONG of them to have their own priorities but it would be disheartening that a friendship with ups and downs / stories has just *poof* away

Or also sometimes it maybe as individuals you have outgrown each other be it interest / your thoughts or POV about things / red flags in a friendship etc

Let me know if any of y’all feel the same way or had had before and tell me more on how you coped with mourning over the friendship or letting go 😮‍💨

Let this be a safe space where we can exchange our feelings and thoughts!

Love,

Dani 🤍

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