Keeping Our Spark Alive After Having Kids ❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥

Hii Darlings ! Today, I wanna share with you my experience on how my husband and I keep the spark alive despite having a kid. As a back story, we have been married for 4 years and gifted a beautiful daughter aged 2 this year.

Life’s after a child undeniably alter our dynamics as a couple. Before having a kid, our time, love and attention are devoted to one another but now we have another entity (HAHAHA !) okay, kid to divide our love, time and attention.

I have to admit, having a kid(s) can be stressful. Especially me as a first time mother. There’s no manual on how to handle a kid and no one warned you about what you’re getting into. You have to experience it first hand. So it comes back to good communication and patience.

How I keep the spark alive after having kid:

1. Always appreciate your partner and control your emotion. Sometimes when we’re so comfortable with your partner, we took them for granted. Appreciate in this context is appreciate all the little things your partner has done to you by saying thanks and smile. Trust me, little gestures like this will make your partner happy.

Another important thing is to always control your emotion. Especially with stressful environment at work (and at home) we tend to lash out or jadi moody when we’re with our partner. So we need to learn to control our emotion by being careful with our intonation, facial expressions and avoid lashing out to our partner. To ensure a harmony marriage.

2. Take care of your appearance. This is what my late grandmother and my mother has taught me – always take care of your appearance despite being married and have kids. Being a mother is not an excuse you to look selekeh. Always take the effort look good. Your husband will definitely proud to have you as his wife. Please ladies, jangan jadikan your selekeh appearance as one of a reason your partner to cheat. I know this is a hard pill to swallow, but there are many cases of infidelity cause due to alasan wife dah tak jaga penampilan.

3. Look and smell good at home. Ni pun my late grand mother and mom pesan- to dress ‘kemas’ even at home. I remember my childhood days where my mum would literally throw away my baju lusuh and baju kelawar so that I look kemas at home. So sampai tua lah terikut dengan ajaran ni. In fact, in Islam, wives memang kena berhias at home for their husband’s gaze. So don’t think of what others think, pakai lah elok elok at home. Lagi afdhal.

4. Self maintenance is virtual for confidence ! you want to keep your spark alive, you mesti lah rasa confident with yourself. Your body changes a lot after giving birth right mommies ?? So do not neglect taking care of your assets, skin and hair.

5. Of course, bedroom activities declines life after child. Both would be too tired from work and house chores. And this wouldn’t become a top priority anymore. So discuss a schedule for this in order to maintain the spark. Discuss things that you like and want to explore.

6. Me and my husband loves to splurge on new experiences together to create new memories. During this quality time, we leave our kid with our helper at home. Hehe.

7. Another way we keep our spark alive is by revisiting nostalgic places together like where our first date took place, any memorable locations we went on a date before. This will revive our love and admiration towards each other.

I hope my sharing helps and empower you ladies ! till then, see you next time ;) #Couple #RelationshipStory #relationshiptips #relationshipstruggles #marriage #marriagelife