The struggles become a new mom 🥹🤱

Hi chantek semua 🪽!

It’s me again & today I just want to share the struggles I had (actually still having it now 🥲) as I become a new mom.

Tbh, it was so hard to be a mom. I never imagine what kind of situations that I need to deal with until I experience it myself. I always thought that “Ala senang je kan nak susukan baby? Baby nangis bagi je laa susu” Oh, how I wish I can turn back time & punch myself for saying that!!! 😡. Okay enough with that, jom I story mory dengan korang:

1️⃣ BREASTFEEDING & CLOGGED DUCT🤱

Before I bersalin, banyak dah I belajar cara nak breastfeed & ajar baby to latch correctly. But actually, not that easy ya. It was so hurt at the beginning sampai I almost give up tauu. I thought that my baby yang latch tak betul tapi actually diri I sendiri yang tak reti nak breastfeed. Lepastu tiba-tiba out of nowhere ada clogged duct huwaa this one is the worst thing ever. Idk what went wrong sebab I direct feed je takde pump ke apa tapi still dapat clogged duct.

✨How I deal with it:

Alhamdulillah, ada nurse kat KD tu ajar I cara yang betul tu breastfeed & now getting better. Sometimes ada jugak rasa sakit sebab my baby kuat menyusu (anak laki kan) memang akan melecet. So, nipple cream tu sangatlah penting ye. Macam nyawa kedua! For the clogged duct tu, pemakanan, sleep position & latching kena jaga. Jangan makan dairy food too much such as cheese sebab ada lemak tepu. Cara latch pun kena sentiasa observe coz sometimes kita tertido masa latch tu pun boleh jadi clogged duct. Posisi tido pulak kalau boleh elakkan dari hempap breast. If berpanjangan, please go to clinic & jumpa doktor tauuu.

2️⃣ POSTPARTUM DEPRESSION 😵‍💫

I memang expect yang I akan alami this thing sebab I sendiri seorang yang emotional. Benda ni i paling risauuuu sangat & yes it happened. Most of the time yang I pantang tu, i nangissss je. Sikit-sikit nangis…anak nangis, I pun ikut nangis 😂😂. Orang kata meroyan laa senang citer.

✨ How I deal with it:

I’m so glad that orang sekeliling I sangat membantu especially my husband & my mom. Memang betul support dari dorang la yang paling diperlukan untuk buat kita tenang & tak rasa hadap sorang-sorang. My friends also banyak bagi advice & siap datang rumah tolong I jagakan baby jugak 🥹. Bila I rasa tak puas hati ke apa, I terus je cakap. I tak pendam dah sebab I tahu if I keep it to myself, I sendiri seksa.

3️⃣ BODY & HORMONAL CHANGES 🧘‍♀️

Untuk berat badan memang tak banyak naik pun. Banyak sangat turun ada laa huhu tapi I sentiasa rasa lenguh & sakit rengat. Lepastu bila tengok condition perut I, I terus rasa down sebab tak macam dulu. I also banyak mood swing…itu ini serba tak kena. I paling jealous bila tengok orang lain boleh tido nyenyak tapi I takleh 😭

✨How I deal with it:

I slowtalk with my husband about my condition untuk dia sama-sama boleh faham & tolerate if I tiba-tiba mood swing ke jadi tah pape. Alhamdulillah, my husband truly understands it & always remind me how I pretty I am in his eyes aaagittewww. We also need to accept & adapt the new changes we had especially our physical…inshaAllah with the right method, mesti kita dapat balik badan macam dulu. As long as kita healthy pun dah okay dah kan? Hee

4️⃣ Struggling with “Baby Blues” 👶🏻

Baby akan ada growth & mental leaping phase tau. During this phase, memang dorang akan nak mengempeng & melekat je dengan kita. From there laa kita boleh terdevelop “baby blues” which rasa macam rimas & tak boleh nak pegang or tgk baby tu pun. Sebenarnya kita tengah burn out sangat tapi tak sedar.

✨ How I deal with it:

Bila I rasa macamni, I akan mintak husband jaga sekejap. At least give me time to bertenang & sorang-sorang. Tbh, I kadang-kadang sampai skrg pun rasa lagi macamni & suami laa kena mainkan peranan untuk jaga baby. Buatlaa apa pun as long as baby okay & tak menangis meraung. Kitorang decided untuk beli buaian as our last choice & it was the best decision ever. My baby dapat tido & at the same time I pun ada masa for myself.

5️⃣ Bye bye deep sleep! 😴

Oh this one hahaha paling laa struggle tauuuuu. Even me & my husband ni kategori burung hantu tapi bila ada anak ni pergh takleh tahan jugak mata tu. Bila tido je memang tak lena sebab baby akan bangun setiap 2-3 hours untuk susu. Lepastu diapers pulak kena tukar setiap 3-4 jam so memang kena bangun jugak malam. Bila siang tu mula laa penat & rasa nak amik sebab tak cukup tido 🥺

✨How I deal with it:

Siang tu masa baby tido, I pun akan tido. Takpun take turn dengan husband bila malam tu. I akan mintak tido sejam je at least dapat tido haha. Tapi alhamdulillah sekarang my baby dah boleh tido malam cuma kena bedung & pasang white noise. Dah makin teratur dah sleep routine dia & I pun dapat dah tido malam lama sikit hihi.

6️⃣ Overthink & mom guilt 😭

Lumrah mak-mak & perempuan memang akan overthink. Tengok anak muntah pun dah cuak, anak tak berak pun cuak, anak menangis tak henti pun cuak. Rasa macam ibu tak guna haa camtu. Awal-awal I rasa macam ni selalu sangat sampai I jadi stress & takut.

✨ How I deal with it:

I take it slow & steady jee lama-lama tu. Anak nangis, I akan biarkan jap bagi I tenang jap lepastu check apa yang patut dekat dia. I pun banyak refer kat kawan-kawan yang dah ada pengalaman jaga baby so that takdelaa I overthink melebih sangat. BUT! Dont ignore your mother instinct tau. Lain tuuuu. Kalau tgk anak punya rutin tiba2 berubah ke dia punya perangai berubah ke, cepat2 refer kat doktor tau.

At the end of the day, being a mom is a bless from Him 💛. It helps us to heal our soul, complete the missing puzzle piece in our life & jadikan kita a better version. For our baby, we are the world — meant everything for them. Cherish these moments where they always want to clinging with us coz later dia akan pergi terbang jauh dari kita untuk hidup sendiri 🥹.

Okaylaa emo pulek dah hahaha. Hope that new moms out there tak rasa sorang-sorang alami fasa ni. Just remember, semua masalah mesti ada penyelesaian. We just need to be calm & patient okie? See you guys on my next post! Byeeeee 😘

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