Breaking generational curses

Something my man and I absolutely without a doubt when it comes to our family is that it’s our responsibility to break the generational curses that have followed the families we came from. More importantly, not to allowed those curses to impact us as parents or interfere with how we want to raise our kids. Being able to be self aware enough, understanding right from wrong, and consciously making the choice to be better than those came before us is an absolute blessing. I wanted to share some generational curses that were actively breaking and why. Some are big and caused lasting problems, some are small that impacted us at a much smaller scale, but regardless of the impact they had we’re making sure we don’t make the same mistakes🥰

💙 If we have food at home we can still eat out. This one wasn’t traumatizing as a kid or anything but it was a bummer. We don’t eat out often but when my kids ask if we can, even if there’s food at home I don’t see what the problem is. It’s fun, and we like eating out too☺️

🩵 Mental health will be a top priority. I intend on having weekly check ins wi the my boys and man to make sure we’re all good. If something is wrong or seems off it’s our job to find solutions and resources to help. I want my kids to know they can come to me with anything without feeling ashamed or that they might get in trouble.

💙 We can have multiple items of similar foods open at a time. It could be cereal or chips it’s going to happen. As an adult I don’t want to eat the same thing over and over until it’s gone😂 especially if I’m in the mood for something different; why should I make my kids? We don’t go crazy, but we do allowed a few things open at a time.

🩵 No one will be ignored out of anger. I want my children to know that when they’re angry it’s okay to step back and take a break. However, they will know it’s not okay to just ignore someone who made them upset. Isolating a child (or anyone really) is counterproductive and will negatively impact the relationship you’re trying to maintain. I never want my kids to feel alone or that they won’t receive attention or help if I’m upset with them.

💙 I will never tell my kids there isn’t a reason to cry or the famous “I’ll give you something to cry about” I hate it! Children have big feeling, their brains are constantly growing, and their perspective on the world is always changing. Children lack control and the slightest thing can be upsetting. I want my kids to know their feelings are valid and we’re here to talk it out. Obviously, there are things that we might think aren’t a reason to cry but that’s when we want to talk it out most and figure out what the underlying problem is.

🩵 I grew up in a very dysfunctional family. I and my man refuse to let our children grow il the same. We’ve taken action and have had deep fulfilling conversations to counter the way we grew up. I’m very proud of how we’re raising our family🥺🥰

💙 We don’t participate in shame based parenting. I’m not going to tell my kids they’re embarrassing me, I’m not going to shame them for the decision they make. Obviously, depending on the choice they’re going to have consequences and lectures. But I don’t want to shame them, I don’t want them to feel less because they did something. It’s their first time living too with much less experience than an adult.

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