I spent a weekend with an incel: what I’ve learned

Ugh let’s get into it

Green Flags:

-Allows me to rant about things I’m passionate about: this includes asking questions and seeming genuinely interested. If I’m sharing something I care about, I also want my partner to care

-Confidence: Be confident in your decisions, in what you say, in how you look, how you touch me.

Nothing is a bigger turn off than insecurity

-Good person without bragging about it: the definition of actions mean more than words lol

-Approaches the world with empathy- This is my biggest green flag. Being genuinely happy for others and showing genuine concern for others? And it’s not an act? Panties coming off

Red Flags

-Jumps to conclusions: Especially on a first date. “Oh well I didn’t think you’d like this so….” This could go either way but something to think about

Assumptions based off how I dress: I’ve noticed that a lot of people assume I’m emotionally immature because I dress alternative. They expect a manic pixie dream girl and I’ll play the part but I’ll block you after

Jealous: Huge difference between being territorial. Territorial won’t be annoyed if I get approached by another man, they’ll instead scare the other man off. Jealous will get angry at the other man and take that out of me

Asking questions to make themselves seem good: this can be hard to tell, so pay attention to body language. This guy kept asking me questions like what do I plan to do in five years (which I’ve already told him my life’s goals in passing like bro pay attention), and as soon as I asked “wbu” his tone changed, his posture changed, he tried acting more put together I suppose. Ew

I can easily go more into this so lmk 🩷🖤

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