Take some time to check yourself🩵✨

At 28, I will shyly admit that I do have a fragile ego. But knowing is better than not knowing!

What is a Fragile Ego?

"A person with a fragile ego has weak and inconsistent self-esteem. Their sense of self-worth is volatile and subject to the whims of life circumstances and others’ judgments. Those with fragile egos are over-reliant on external validation."

I recently realised that I have a fragile ego when it comes to my family's opinions. I've suddenly come into an era where I realised that I do have childhood trauma and it has lasting impacts in my adulthood, so I'm taking steps to be more aware and to inculcate new thought patterns.

I personally feel that most of us have childhood trauma. If you can't pinpoint any, maybe you truly don't, but it might already be affecting you without you knowing🥹

I have a fragile ego when it comes to my parents because I have a very close relationship with them. We have very open communication and since they are my parents, I've always consulted and confided in them when I'm making life decisions.

Sometime in the middle of university, I really couldn't keep up with their expectations of me. They wanted me to work in Finance because I was in business school, but I really wanted to specialise in Marketing/PR. Despite their persuasion, I went ahead with my heart and doing that was a small step towards gaining confidence in making a choice without the support of the most important people in my life.

Several years later, I've made so many choices of my own and started to see success and happiness (defined in my own terms of course). I've learnt to trust myself more and not internalise the opinions of others too much, even if they mean the world to me (i.e. family)

I'm definitely not a pro at all, I still find myself second guessing my life choices sometimes. I guess at the end of the day, we all want to make our parents proud and happy.

I'm also starting to learn that all parents are first-time parents, they make mistakes too. Its inevitable that they pin hopes and expectations on us because they want the best for us. But just know that nobody can help make any decision for you except yourself, because you know yourself best. It'll take some time but your parents or others will begin to feel happy for you once they see you happy as well!

I guess I wanted to share this as a reminder for everyone to trust themself more, and look within more than looking outwards. We only live once and we never know when time will be up for us!

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