I WENT NO CONTACT WITH MY MOTHER

in the last year, I decided to go no contact with my mother. This means we do not communicate at all, and she is blocked on all platforms from contacting me. If she does manage to reach out, I block and do not respond.

often times when I share this with people, I got the following types of responses:

“But she’s your mom!”

“You only have one mom.”

When I share my reasoning, behind the decision, it changes to:

“I’m sure she didn’t mean that.”

“You may regret this someday!“

So I honestly avoid telling people. It’s not anyone’s choice but mine and neither is it their business why. I went no contact because of consistent boundaries being broken, being treated like a therapist for my parent, and insults/verbal tirades for years. Some people can’t understand what that is like for a child to experience from their parent. I think those people are lucky.

So.. what have I learned? it hasn’t been easy. I have failed at being no contact multiple times over the past five years.

You really need to find a good therapist and resources to help you heal. You have no obligation to stay in contact with someone who harms you either physically or mentally. Find a trusted friend who you can share your boundaries with to stay strong when you feel like you may break your contact rules.

It’s not easy and it gets very lonely. But I have decided my mental health comes first.

#lemon8diary #lemon8partner #embracevulnerability #nocontact