I’m sick of putting myself last

I don’t understand it at all. I enjoy my singleness, and when someone disrupts that to try and get to know me, but doesn’t even put the effort. Where do I go wrong? Yes I’m a lover girl, yes I’m a romantic, and yes I’m old school. I love it when a man takes his time to plans dates, pay for dates, and make time for me. That’s one thing my ex knew how to do “Make me feel secure in the relationship”. Men DO NOT ruin a women’s peace if you yourself are not willing to put in that consistent effort. #Done