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Hiya!! So some background information to start, my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years, he came into my life when my daughter was 3 months old and instantly took on the father role. He’s lived with me since our first date lol!! About a month and a half ago he joined the police academy in a near by town. He uses MY car to get there too which has no relevance to the storyline but note I do everything for him. If he doesn’t have money, I do, his dirty laundry I wash and put it away etc.

Okay so going back to the beginning of his police academy adventure! I have been there for him no matter what and always listen to his school drama, he’s told me there’s this one girl (who in the span of the past month) has slept with 3 of the classmates. (we’ll call them Moshua, Mackson, and another who’s name i don’t actually even know but we’ll call him Bob, the girl in question we will call Sally) so from what he’s told me, Mackson has a girlfriend and still goes to lunch with Sally every single day, when his girlfriend calls him while in the car Sally knows to stay quiet.

About 3 weeks ago I noticed my boyfriend made a group chat that was “for the boys” on snapchat. We’ve never kept our phones secretive but i was NOT allowed to read or look at the group chat. But i noticed Sally was in it? He didn’t have her added on snapchat at that time. One of the fridays he went to study at a Kava Bar with all his buddies. Sally was there:)

About two weeks ago, we had a totally separate conversation about how i feel we are entering a roommate situation with our relationship, we don’t go on dates, or even spend quality time together. even SLEEPING IN THE SAME BED he is on his phone and rolls over to go to sleep without saying “i love you” or “goodnight” or literally the bare minimum. He doesn’t ask me how my day went or have any interest in my life, all of our conversations consist of whatever is going on in the police academy. I brought this up and told him how i felt and he did not apologize or correct these behaviors.

Another tid bit of info, we live with my parents. My dad has been struggling with pancreatic cancer, and my mom is struggling with hyperthyroidism.

It was a friday and my dad came down with a fever and with pancreatic cancer that’s super serious because it can be a sign of infection. On wednesday my mom had her thyroid removed so was in recovery, meaning i am responsible for taking care of both parents as well as my two year old daughter. Anyway on that friday, i asked him to stay home from the Kava Bar because i felt overwhelmed with so much responsibility between the three family members while also cleaning for our daughters upcoming bday party, he cut me off mid sentence and said “im going idk what else to tell you”. Just a reminder IN MY CAR he was taking.

Later in the evening i told him my dad had to go to the hospital by ambulance because my mom can’t lift over 10 pounds because of her surgery and i can’t lift my dad obviously so we called paramedics. I told him i don’t like how our relationship was turning for the worse and how i feel he’s never there for me. he turned off his location and ignored me. My mom stayed in the hospital with my dad that night and i was completely alone in the house (we don’t live in a super great neighborhood and often have crime) He came home at 130 in the morning and went straight to sleep next to me.

The next morning we do the deed so i proceed to think we’re fine. he then tells me how moshua screwed the sally girl. moshua has a WIFE. he said Moshuas wife was moving out and he planned on moving in with Moshua. I was confused because why was he trying to move out. later on I notice he has scratches on his back. i asked if sally was at the kava bar with him. he said yes but she apparently hung with Moshua. he said i was crazy and the scratches must’ve been the way he slept.

I ask to see his phone and he snatches it from my hands and i slap him. he left the house with his phone but before he could get his phone back i noticed Sally was added on snapchat now. That night he came back home and slept in the guest room.

Another tid bit of info, my nightlight broke and i wfh at nights using a candle. my candle in our room was fully burnt so i went to the guest room to get another candle. the door was locked so i got a key and opened it got my candle and went back to our bedroom. then i heard him move the couch in front of the door. we were not speaking to one another

the next day he went to the gym and all that fun stuff to basically avoid me. we text and talk things over. i asked him if he slept with sally he said no. i noticed his body movement while he was explaining he didnt sleep with her. he was shifting his weight the entire time, picking at his finger nails, giving minor details of his night that dont play any effect, overcorrected himself when he wasnt telling the story correctly. i scratch my eyebrow he scratches his and mimics my behavior unknowingly.

whatever i digress. he tells me his new “boundaries” for our relationship is we don’t go on each others phones anymore and i need to let him go out when he wants. ok?

later that night we go to little caesar’s and i ask him why sally is added on snapchat now. he tells me so i he could talk to her about the moshua situation. i ask to read the conversation he says “no you’ll get mad” i said “but you said you didn’t screw her why would i be mad” after some back and forth he agrees to let me read the messages. throughout the night he was in the guest room he was messaging her and confining in her. saying im crazy, that i domestically abused him for slapping him, told her i was breaking the door down (i unlocked it) for my candle and he had to put the couch in front of the door to keep me out. she’s telling him im toxic. he’s telling her i don’t appreciate him and he brings me flowers every week blah blah blah (which isn’t true) basically just complaining about how awful i am to him. keep in mind he’s lived with me since day 1 so he wouldn’t be homeless. i paid for his 100 dollar backpack 1 pairs of $100 dollar running shoes bought him gas and lunches the first two weeks of the academy etc. but he’s playing it out like i am nothing but a taker.

on our way back from little caesar’s i told him id believe him if he called sally and asked about her time with the “kava bar” he refuses but calls moshua instead, i tell moshua why i believe my boyfriend screwed sally and he tells me that it’s completely normal to not want your SO on your phone, and the scratches must’ve been from them wrestling. My boyfriend never mentioned wrestling when he over explained the entire friday night out.

i once again, digress.

the next day we go to bush gardens as a date to try and mend our relationship. i ask him on the way if he’s still talking to the sally girl he says no. throughout our entire bush gardens trip he is glued to his phone sending the group chat pictures of the monkeys, rollercoasters and sharing his experience with the group chat and waiting for a response every 2 minutes. on our way back i notice he has a snapchat notif from sally. i said “i thought you weren’t talking to her anymore” he said he wasn’t and ignored her message. about 20 minutes later i was leaning against the window and he picks up his phone and starts typing away. i shift my body into the reclined car seat and see he’s texting- you guessed it- SALLY!! i questioned him and he started laughing and telling me im psychotic and insecure. later that night i really explain to him how awful he’s making me feel about the entire situation and my trust for him. he cries and removes her. but he’s still going to the academy everyday and spends 12+ hours with this girl daily and she still hangs out with them. am i crazy?